Getting rid of excessive luggage came about as I was having a conversation with a dear friend about making amends & the stress that comes along with it.
As it often happens in Whatsup there were fragments of conversations which had to be rearranged which is what I have been doing all day 😉
I hope this will be as enjoyable to read as enlightening!
To understand how to go about Step eight we have to learn how to let go & one way of doing it is by searching in the works of our contemporary philosophers.
Eckhart Tolle says in The power of now,
Pride is ego, ego becomes mind, mind becomes thought, thought becomes emotion…
In order to internalise this concept introduced so beautifully to us in his book, it has become a must to read over & over again.
As habit forming creatures the next step to take would be to exercise that idea, thus creating a behaviour pattern, resulting in ownership.
Impatience here is a killer. It leads to frustration which leads to… you get the picture 😉
Everything done is a step by step, moment by moment process. All that is asked of us is to do what is possible, right now. No more. We cannot bite more than a mouthful.
What we want to fix now (ALL our past behaviour) is fixed in God’s time not ours. Maybe it is time we try to delegate, not tick it all off our list.
By the way, fixing the now is what fixes our past because every second of now becomes immediately past the second after.
Nevertheless, we can understand where we come from. We focus all of our energy working on our past in order to be happy now. But by being happy now with what IS might be an effective way of dealing with our past. It’s simply planning our strategy differently.
Mind is made for practical reasons. For decision making, promote DOING, planning…
By overusing it, it becomes an opponent. Overthinking being so common nowadays, has become a dis-ease we are unaware of. Negative emotions are the results.
Nothing good has ever come out of it.
Dealing effectively with the present moment (which is all that is real in this world) enables us to deal with what we call past.
Another thing worth to mention… although some might disagree, we could try to keep in mind to use our common sense, not search for people to dictate us & if they do, practice sifting, as we have been so beautifully taught in o.a literature.
People are not a higher power, they are human & speak from a human perspective, sometimes even a personal one. After all they’re here to help, out of their experiences & challenges. Every challenge is different but we can consider the possibility that advice, in some cases, can be very helpful.
What we strongly believe is right, what we feel comfortable & at peace with, is a pleasant way indeed, going against your gut feeling is being out of tune. If possible, create a quiet meditative place in your mind unencumbered by ego, when you want to make important decisions.
We were given a mind so we can reason, make sense out of things coming our way, we are no robot with a program built by a higher intelligence. Some might disagree here too, but having a difference in opinion is no tragedy. We can respect that.
Let’s try to see it from a different angle…
If our ego is out of the way we have our path clear to go forward. Nobody can contradict such logic.
We can only feel comfortable dealing with our past & make amends IF we can step out of our SELF. The ego.
Dr.Wayne Dyer said in one of his lectures… Unease creates dis-ease.
Nevertheless, we cannot make amends for the sole purpose of unburdening ourselves, that would be selfish. First we have to get rid of guilt before we can face the ones we have to make amends to, in an honest peaceful way.
We could do it forcefully but would you conscientiously choose to?
An inward cleansing so we can deal with amends efficiently might be the ideal ground.
Doing it out of love for the welfare of the recipient not ours, BECAUSE we have cleaned up our side is not such a crazy concept either.
Only then can it be dealt with, genuinely & honestly.
We have seen it over & over again, negative emotions produce unsatisfactory results, to say the least.
In short, loving ourselves is the way to do a satisfactory job. Changing directions & perspectives versus set & rigid ways of thinking might just be our salvation!
Challenges (even the ones seen as trivial in daily occurrences) happen in our life because it’s the right, the most perfect thing to happen. Sometimes we see it shortly after, others much later. The present is all that counts & our trust complete for he sees as we can never see… (or let’s say, by some gift, can sometimes see, in limited ways ;)).
Amends directed negatively might also be the ego speaking as a result of not having completed our inner job. Genuine amends can come from a place of inner peace, where worry, fear, guilt & stress cannot exist.
Fear of going back to eating compulsively as a result of not having done our amends has no future. Don’t be mistaken, getting the job done is a good thing, but doing it out of fear is accumulating points in our favour toward failure.
We could start with a first aid bandage.
By loving & respecting ourselves… learning how to LIVE. We radiate enough positivity to allow doors to open one after the other, invite miracles into our lives.
Amends has then the possibility to unfold naturally, the process is not a struggle anymore.
In short, if emotions (as fear) are the trigger to our escalation (toward food) then, maybe we can cut the chase, go to the root of the matter & try to deal with emotions rather than feeding them further.
Accept, surrender to the knowledge of our addiction. A fact not a tragedy. Actually, a point in our favour in the long run. Live with it rather than fight it. Fighting is fuel to fear, fear fuel to fight & we are gone on a roller coasters…
Teaching ourselves to live in its true sense (the one mentioned above) channelling our emotions adequately & effectively leaves us room to see the miracle of all life & living entities surrounding us, “fooling” our addiction (call it distraction if you want) by devoting ourselves to the beauty & gratitude inhabiting us moment by moment rather than what our mind calls, the ugly, the work or duty… Going with the flow is far less taxing by any means.
We can then cope with addiction, take it to its rightful place… the background.
Being aware of its presence without allowing it to invade every inch of our beautiful lives.
What I’m trying to say is that the most important tool to acquire in our beautiful life story is, to have peace. Having that, we emanate an energy that breaks away any resistance.
The results become spectacular & will stun us!
The only way I see amends in its true sense happening, is by getting rid of excessive luggage in a constructive way. Getting rid of it, as we mentioned earlier on, with the knowledge that we are human, signing our path in life the best way we know how, with the best tools given, taking in account that sometimes we will be confronted with co-workers, partners, relationships we have chosen as a consequence.
If we manage to do that & be as kind to ourselves as we try to be to others (if not more, for the more we are with ourselves the more we can give to others) we can rest assured.
Success is on its way!
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